May 2012
42 posts
Anonymous asked: Hi. First I want to thank you for answering to everybody's questions, you're nice. Further, I wanted to ask you what do you think it's going on with me: everytime I'm thinking of having sex with a girl, I feel like I need to penetrate them. I surely don't regret the fact that I'm not a boy, but why do I feel uncomfortable everytime it comes to sex with girls, so...
Anonymous asked: I identify as a lesbian, and I've had the feeling for awhile now that my male best friend is in love with me, or at least has a crush. He indicates it anyway. And I'm coming to realize that there really isn't anyone else who understands me as well, and there might never be... We've kissed before and determined it'd never happen, but that was a long time ago. I'm just...
Anonymous asked: i had to ask my gynecologist about queer sex / having sex with my lesbian girlfriend, and she honestly didn't know what to tell me about anything. (like if i couldn't get pregnant, there was nothing she needed to advise me on). are there other resources for young queer individuals who are considering having sex?
April 2012
92 posts
Anonymous asked: I'm an openly gay man and I've only ever been on the giving end when it comes to sex. I'd like to know ways to prepare myself for receiving anal sex and what the best lubes and condoms are. I don't know how to explore that area of myself because I've had an issue in my past that has made that a rough subject but I've worked through that and I would like to be able to...
Anonymous asked: I've recently come out as genderqueer, and I'm writing an outline for a video I'll be making for friends and family to see that explains everything in clear terms, like pronouns and presentation and everything. I'd be most comfortable with alternating pronouns depending on my presentation for the day (he on guy days, she on girl days, they on ambiguous days), and the same for...
Anonymous asked: how many people run this blog?
I don’t want to discourage anyone from asking questions, but transition-related asks should be directed to the T.R.A.N.S. ask box. I’d like to maintain the focus of QSE on sex and sexual health. I realize that there are times when sex and gender identity do overlap, but questions specific to gender expression and gender identity should be submitted over there.
Anonymous asked: Im an 18 year old transgender ftm. I want to be stealth and am completely stealth to this day. I want to be stealth and the idea of having somebody know im trans scares the daylights out of me. Is it bad that i want to be completely stealth?
Anonymous asked: you don't have anything to say on just idolizing/fetishizing/whatever gay guys? I honestly want your opinion, if you have any on this matter.
Anonymous asked: Will people really notice if I don't pack? I never really wanted to bother with it, but reading blogs of other trans guys talking about it is making me feel really self-conscious and wonder if it's actually super noticeable if I don't pack...
Anonymous asked: I'm scared I'm not really trans* or gay but instead wish I was a gay cis male. I know that can sound like I'm trans*, but when I say I might just wish I was that, I mean in the way *some* straight cis girls wish they were gay guys or just 'fetishize'(?) it slightly. I know there's no such thing as trans* enough but there's still this feeling deep down that...
ravenbara asked: I know it isn't a permanent solution but I cope with periods by using thin overnight pads and wearing my boxers and packer over the 'girl underwear'. For me the thin ones are easier to forget about and the overnights cover more area so it helps keep everything contained.
Anonymous asked: 1a. post/21738413920/what-are-ways-to-stop-your-period-other-than#notes thanks for the advice. Just a couple more things. I was kind of hoping you wouldn't mention diva cups, and my bad for not mentioning them. Would you believe me if I said I didn't have the resources for one? I know they last up to 10 years but I don't have that money. I also don't have a way of paying for it...
There are some types of birth control that reduce the number of periods you have. I think one is called Lybrel, you get no periods at all.
— uglylove22
I guess I should have been more specific…HBC is not always a viable option because of the feminizing effects of extra estrogen/progesterone in the system. I’m pretty sure Anon is looking for something that won’t increase...
Anonymous asked: I just came out to my best friend. Thanks for all your help!!! :)
Anonymous asked: Female, pansexual. I just got out of a three year relationship with a boy who was my first everything, including my first male crush. While in the relationship, I often wondered what it would be like to be with a girl (especially since I find females more attractive than males generally). Now that I'm out, I've realised I have no idea how to a) let people know I'm not just into men,...
Anonymous asked: What are ways to stop your period other than contraception? I don't like having my period because I shouldn't have been born a girl. If I got the pill then my boobs might get bigger or something. They're also irregular (I think, is there some kind of definition about what irregular periods are? They're not always specifically a month apart) so I don't know exactly when...
Anonymous asked: I want to lose muscle in my arms and shoulders but not the rest of my body. Do you have any advice/know of any articles that could help me?
Anonymous asked: I was assigned female at birth but identify as male. I think I want to start T in the future but the main thing stopping me is my body hair. I have lots of body hair now, especially on my back/bum. It's so embarrassing and it depresses me how hairy I am now. I don't wear clothes that show my back. I don't go swimming. If I started T then I would get hairier, and not just on my face...
Safer Sex and Contraception for Trans* Guys
artoftransliness:
A lot of us are less than well-informed about how to have safe sex and prevent pregnancy as trans* guys, partially because there isn’t a lot of information out there specifically for us.
-For oral sex involving vulvas (vulvae?), a good way to reduce the chance of STI transmission is to use dental dams. These can be purchased at sex shops and similar locations or created using...
Anonymous asked: I feel like I might be a panromantic demisexual. That's possible, right? Otherwise I'm so confused...
Little known Facts about STD's: Part 5
sexreeducated:
With a single chlamydia infection, there is a 25% chance of sterility for women. With a second infection, there is a 50% chance. And a third infection almost guarantees sterility, due to PID (pelvic inflammatory disease).
Infertility as a result of PID accounts for 50-80% of the infertility in Africa.
Black women in 2002 accounted for 67% of the U.S. AIDS cases among women.
The...
Anonymous asked: As a child I suppressed a limited amount of feminine mannerisms to the point where I doubt I could gain them back. Lately I've been trying to "undo" my masculine development but it's difficult. Is this something that lots of transsexuals experience? Will femininity ever become "natural", or will it just be a new type of dysphoria?
Anonymous asked: I'm a MAAB. I feel an intense desire to become a woman, but I don't think I experience "dysphoria", per se. Like I'm not super uncomfortable with my body, but I would much rather have a female body. I think this is especially true for my genitals, which I'm not uncomfortable with, but I would like vaginoplasty anyway. Is my lack of discomfort with my body a sign that...
thisishowtostay asked: So I'm 17, bisexual, and my parents still think I haven't had sex with a guy. If they knew I did, they would be furious. Last week, I had sex with guy, and I used a condom when we had sex (I was on top), but I didn't use a condom for oral. Then a week later, I noticed two small, almost purple bumps on my scrotum. I think it's genital warts. Should I go to a free clinic, or tell...
wrcsolace asked: i have another anal sex question. so i heard--like as an aside somewhere on the internet years ago and i roundly dismissed it as misunderstanding how the body works/fears about gay sex--that a significant amount of anal sex slowly loosens the sphincter muscle and can lead to incontinence problems as one ages. real thing or malarkey? if real, are there ways to strengthen muscles (like kegels) or to...
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Alternate Masterbation Technique for Trans* Women
My girlfriend recently posted this and I thought it might be helpful to submit, incase other MTF ladies would be interested <3
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Queer Sex Education - sexual health and education
Anonymous asked: Is it bad to use flavored lube on the vulva/clot/vagina?
Anonymous asked: Is lubrication for vaginas created from vaginoplasty the same kind of lubrication that is created by genetic vaginas?
thatawkwardwhat asked: Hi! I got some questions hope you could answer. Ok, here goes the first one: Let's suppose that two virgin guys have sex without condom ... is there any possibility for them to get any STDs? What I mean is that if none of the two have any STD, could they get one when condom isn't used? -- And the second one: About anal sex, what's the best way to get it the cleanest? Thanks.
“Most people find it difficult to grasp that whatever they like to do sexually...”
– Gayle Rubin, “Theory of the Politics of Sexuality” (via croatoan)
Anonymous asked: I'm the person with the weird fetish from before. My fetish is stuffing - basically eating/drinking so much food/liquid that the belly gets all distended. I only ever get physically aroused by imagining or seeing someone in the act of stuffing or who is stuffed. The idea of some other, more normal sex acts kind of interest me, in a way? But they don't arouse me. Like, I enjoy reading...
Anonymous asked: I have a butch/functional-clothing clothing style, but I identify as a bisexual woman. My mother has noticed my clothing choices and demanded to know if I was gay. I told her I was bi, but now she thinks I'm a lesbian. This after dating nothing but men since I was 12 and having just gotten out of a four-year-long relationship with a man. I don't know what to do.
Anonymous asked: i can't keep being trans* a secret anymore. i want to have someone to talk to in real life about these things and i want someone in real life to know me as who i am. but on the other hand i don't want anyone i know already to find out about me being trans* it's honestly one of my worst fears for someone that alreadys knows me to find out about this. which kind of creates a problem...
Anonymous asked: my friend declares himself asexual. i'm not exactly sure what that means exactly. could you clarify that for me? thanks.
Anonymous asked: What's the easiest way to tell your friends/family that you're transgendered without freaking them out?
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So, I was making out with my boyfriend, and it was getting really hot and heavy. He went to move on top of me, and in the process slammed his elbow into my forehead. OW! The lump on my forehead was comparable to a kiwi in size.
Anonymous asked: if a transman gets surgery so he has a penis, i've heard that they can't ejaculate. I know you can't have sperm but i've also heard transmen saying they do ejaculate. i'm confused? and can you please explain what it means when people say you need a metal rod to create an erection? i don't understand. it goes in the penis? if you don't make it erect can you still...
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One time, I was having missionary, hetero sex with my partner, when “the motion of the ocean” literally started making me “seasick”. I had to stop and run to the bathroom because having sex was making me motion-sick.
Anonymous asked: I'm a MAAB, but I'm not sure that I want to transition. I didn't always feel like I'm a woman. I think it was only during puberty that I started having subconscious feelings that I'm playing the wrong gender role, and only halfway through high school did I consciously realize that I might want to change. I feel like if I don't transition, I'll definitely feel...
Anonymous asked: I have heard you referencing hard packers in other questions. What are they, and what are they used for?
procrasturbating asked: What kind of care do trans women who have had genital surgery have to give their vaginas? I know that most are not self-lubricating - are there any other steps beyond what a person with a vagina they were born with has to do to keep themselves healthy in that area?
You may have noticed...
but I haven’t be particularly active the last 2 days. Work has been extremely stressful and I’ve been supporting a friend in need, so I’ve been using my free time to decompress and relax. But these stressors are 100% temporary, and regular posting/answering should resume in a day or so.
Until then, enjoy this GIF.
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Leg cramp
I was in the middle of a long-time-coming makeout session with a nice young man when he all of a sudden made a face and an unpleasant groan.
“Leg cramp!” he yelled
I burst out laughing. I thought he’d come. I love sex fails…no sense in being weirded out by them. Sex doesn’t have to be sexy.
How To Have Sex With an Asexual Person →
slinkyofpansexuality:
This isn’t my article, I didn’t write and I don’t know the person that did, I simply find it an incredibly informative read, and I highly suggest anyone in a romantic relationship (or otherwise) with an asexual person read it. Trigger warning for mentions of non consensual situaltions.
All Things Lesbian Sex: A Guide →
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Strap-on fun
TW: Trust issues, embarrassment, Queer sex
My first time using a strap-on was a interesting experience. It belonged to my boyfriend, and usually he would use it on me, but he wanted to role reverse so I could understand how it feels to be on the giving end rather than the receiving end due to my discomfort with the idea of a strap on.
Well, I put it on, and he had to help me with the leather...
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With my first serious boyfriend, who was a Mormon (but not practicing), we were getting busy one day, and his mom walked in on us… she is very Mormon and it was very awkward! He got in a lot of trouble too! It was a long time before I could look her in the face or go back to his house…
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Wait, what is that?
It was my one month anniversary with my girlfriend (of a little over 2 years now), and were in her dorm room celebrating. It was very special to both of us because we are very much in love. So we start to make love, when I start to feel something wet on my face. I thought maybe she accidentally drooled on me, or my nose was running, so I went to wipe it off. It was then she realized that she had...
