Anonymous asked: Do you know if pumping my clit will cause any harm? I'm a trans man taking T
Only if you do it to the point of hurting yourself. Wash your pump cylinder with warm water and soap to keep it clean, and you should be just fine.
Anonymous asked: I'm pansexual but I've never had a girlfriend and that's all I want right now.. Do you think ill ever find one?
Of course! Whenever we’re single, there’s always that nagging fear in the back of our minds: I’m never going to find someone. But you will. Or someone will find you. You never know what the future holds, but I truly believe there is always someone. It’s just a matter of finding each other.
Chin up!
Anonymous asked: My partner gets anxious when we start to become more intimate. We both have anxiety and we are not that experienced, but I'd love to become more intimate. Any suggestions?
Anxiety is pretty normal, especially if you’re just starting out. Just try to relax, and focus less on your anxiety. Focus more on what you’re doing, what’s happening, what you’re feeling (physically, not emotionally, although you can focus on that too!). Talk to each other, too. If you talk about the things you like, want to try, don’t like, etc., you’re less likely to feel anxious as you get more intimate.
Most of all, have fun. It’s OK to laugh, and it’s OK to joke around, too. Enjoy each other :)
Anonymous asked: Can a girl be totally pleased by another girl?
Absolutely! Many women have healthy and satisfying sexual relationships with other women and/or FAAB persons.
Anonymous asked: I'm going on holiday soon but I'm scared I will want to masturbate is there anyway I can do so quietly ?
Get wet and wild in the shower! Most hotels/motels/bathrooms in general have an exhaust fan built into the ceiling or wall. It helps with preventing mold and mildew from repeated steaminess. Turn that on when you shower, and let the fan and water drown out any sounds you might make. It’s not a completely fool-proof method, as you’ll have to keep your volume low, but at least you’ll have some privacy. And if you’ve never experienced some self-love in the shower, you’re in for a treat!
Anonymous asked: I love to masturbate but I can only get pleasure by rubbing my clit is there a way I can get pleasure by puting my fingers inside me? I've tried before by puting one in and puting it in and out repeatedly but I can't seem to get pleasure !
Well, you can always try more fingers! If one isn’t enough, try two. Or three. Look at the curl of your fingers when your hand is held up and relaxed. That’s the angle they should have when entering. You can also move your fingers in a “come here” kind of motion to increase stimulation of the g-spot.
Try it a few times. If you find you’re not enjoying that, you don’t have to keep doing it. There’s nothing wrong with sticking to a tired and true method :)
Anonymous asked: Is it wired. To bleed after sex
It can be. Sometimes during penetrative sex, you can scratch or tear the vaginal walls or anus and rectum. These tiny tears will likely bleed at least a little, because of the numerous blood vessels that concentrate in those areas. Spotting (diluted/light colored blood) is not really good, but there’s nothing to worry about, especially if you’ve just had some rough sex. But if you experience anything more than spotting (bright red blood, lasting longer than a few minutes), you should keep an eye on it and go to an urgent care facility or emergency room, especially if it doesn’t stop within a few minutes. Full-on bleeding can be a sign of a more serious injury.
Anonymous asked: This is the same girl with the masturbation problem. What might be wrong? Sorry I just don't like to go to doctors unless its crucial and I just want to know why I would need to go to the obgyn with a masturbation problem...?
I’m not a doctor, so I can’t really say. It could be an infection, either in the cervix or even the vaginal wall. Simple antibiotics can clear it up. There could also be swelling, if you experienced any trauma to the area (biking, horseback riding, falling, gymnastics, etc). There’s really no way to be sure unless you see your doctor and explain that you experience pain with penetration. It’s better to be safe than sorry, and that’s from someone who pretty much hates any and all doctors.
Next week is National Crime Victims’ Rights Week. The Violence Recovery Program at Fenway Health is highlighting the experiences of LGBTQ victims of violent crimes.
Look for this Ad in Boston’s Metro this week.
4 in 10 lesbian women, 6 in 10 bisexual women, 1 in 4 gay men, and 4 in 10 bisexual men have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner. Transgender survivors are almost twice as likely to experience sexual violence by an intimate partner than non-trans people.
(via transqueery)
Anonymous asked: im a girl and whenever I try to masturbate I get this sharp pain in my vagina and I honestly can't get any further, not just out of pain but like, LITERALLY. Theres like a wall or something like my finger doesnt fit. I've found other ways of getting off but maybe you can help me understand what the actual heck is happening?
You may be hitting your cervix. It’s a very sensitive part of your organ makeup, and it can be painful if you hit it. You should consider seeing an OB/GYN to get checked out, just to be safe.
